Surviving financially in the sandwich generation
Change is inevitable, but not always pleasant. Pre-retirees are finding that they are not only supporting adult children (sometimes even grandchildren) but their parents as well, neither of which was planned for. There are some fundamental changes to the norms and values in society that are causing these changes. Youngsters are waiting longer to marry, but cannot necessarily afford to move into their own home – or would rather live ‘rent-free’ and spend their money elsewhere. Marriages are failing at an unprecedented rate, and these split families can often not go it alone on one income. The incidence of ‘single parents’ is at the highest level ever. There is also the demographic issue that retirees are living longer, often much longer than they ever have and their retirement funds often run out, so they have to fall back on their children for support.
Whatever the reasons, at a time those would-be empty nesters should be ‘accumulating’ retirement funds, and have the mortgage bond paid off, they are having to incur expenses both to look after children and parents, both of which can have a devastating effect on their own pensions. There is no doubt that this trend will continue, and as longevity really kicks in, could get even worse.
This pressure of being financially sandwiched between children and parents needs to be planned for – both financially and emotionally. There are also some ‘soft skill’ changes that you can start implementing that don’t usually fall under the ambit of financial advice, but quite frankly they should.